You can't tap your back for a job well done. You can't hug yourself for comfort. You can't cry on your shoulders when tears fall. That's why you have GOD in your life, to let Him do whatever you can't.
You can choose courage, or you can choose comfort, but you cannot choose both. As I look back on my life, I realize that every time I thought I was being rejected from something good, I was actually being re-directed to something better!